Saturday, 30 March 2019

Kafka on the Shore : Book Review

We are a quarter of the way through the year and I have managed to read book one of the thirteen books I have chosen for my reading this year. I'm not sure how likely it is that I will be reading the other twelve in the remaining nine months, but that I enjoy reading them is the main thing. Here is my review for my first read of the year.


Kafka on the Shore by Haruki Murakami

This book is mostly about the growing pains of a fifteen year old boy, Kafka Tamura, as he runs away from home, in a vague attempt to grow up and find himself. The book features quite a bit of death, sex and violence, but also a library, poetic visions, music and art, as we follow Kafka's journey towards manhood as well as the poignant journey of a strange old man called Nakata, who can talk to cats and knows a lot of weird stuff, even though he's quite backward and childlike. This is the first fiction book I have read for over a year, it didn't disappoint; it was mostly sheer escapism.

Monday, 25 March 2019

My Second Mindful Year


I have two big-ish anniversaries coming up next year. The big one is 'Thirty Years a Librarian' which is happening in February 2020. The second one is 'Ten Years in Concert', as I first started playing classical piano pieces in public in 2010. I also have other ideas about having survived other things in my life from the 1990s to the 2020s. With all this going on I have become aware that this year is in danger of becoming a very un-mindful year.



To turn things around I realised I needed to think differently about this particular year. My first mindful year began in March 2018. With my second mindful year running from March 2019 to February 2020 I decided to split my year into the four seasons and work out my mindful goals from there.





Spring Mindfulness - March, April, May



I have chosen 13 books to read this year; 6 mood boosting books, 4 leftover books and 3 Buddhist Psychology books. I hope to do another craft fair in April or May. I will continue my meditations, breath awareness, body scan and Loving Kindness. I will continue being mindful in my walking and everyday life. We will play more. I am going to practice the piano more especially the pieces I hope to play in public.





Summer Mindfulness - June, July, August



I am looking forward to holidays in Southend and Eastbourne and maybe Devon again, in June, July and August. I hope to visit Kew Gardens and do more walking by the Thames and in Ruislip Woods. We may find opportunities for dancing. We may also find opportunities for stargazing which fits in nicely with Space Therapy.




Autumn Mindfulness - September, October, November



Ideas for Autumn mindfulness are a bit dark. I read in 'Tiny Buddha' that often New Age therapies are not very good at engaging with our dark sides. We are light and dark and I think we need to accept both. My autumn mindfulness includes being philosophical and blogging, which I often work on while being mindful in a pub. I can also muse on death, Edgar Allan Poe and horror films. I will probably do more poetry and enjoy some graveyards as well.


Winter Mindfulness - December, January, February



My wintry mindful ideas are things I should be working on all year. Dr Who and TV box sets are things we enjoy all year round as are films. I hope we will be seeing plays and visiting art galleries and museums this year. I also intend to do more mindful doodling and colouring. With the December musings of impermanence and letting go I can muse about the end of the decade and the first twenty years of the 21st Century.

Saturday, 23 March 2019

A Year of Living Mindfully



On the 23rd March 2018 I did my first guided meditation with my daughter. It was the body scan from 'The Beginner's Guide to Mindfulness'. We now do guided meditations everyday. The connecting to breath meditation, where we concentrate on breathing slowly and calmly, is very effective and relaxing and can also cure hiccups. We also do the Loving Kindness Meditation which we started in July and which now features quite a bit of self-compassion as well. Self-compassion was one of the last ideas I embraced, it has been very helpful. 

I practice mindfulness everyday; at work, at home, in the pub, while travelling; it has helped make my life feel a lot less stressful. I have read many books on mindfulness and Buddhist psychology in the past year; these are six of the best.



1.       Wherever you go, there you are by Jon Kabat-Zinn; New York, Piatkus, 2004

2.       Mindfulness by Williams and Penman; London, Piatkus, 2011

3.       A lamp in the darkness by Jack Kornfield; Boulder, Sounds True, 2014

4.       The art of living by Thich Nhat Hanh; London, Rider, 2017

5.       When things fall apart by Pema Chodron; Colorado, Shambhala, 1997

6.       Buddha’s Brain by Rick Hanson, Oakland, New Harbinger, 2009​



As it is my Mindfulness Anniversary I decided to buy a new mindfulness book called the Mindfulness Journal to celebrate. Above and below are some mindful doodling and colouring I have been doing throughout the year.


Monday, 18 March 2019

Amy's game of life



We have been playing Amy's game of life on holiday since she created it in 2014. It was a most memorable time playing it on holiday in our rented apartment in Whitby, on the Yorkshire coast.

The game begins with birth and ends in death. At the start players wait in limbo until they draw the birth card and then their game begins. On life's journey you earn money, buy property, have children, get into debt, get into trouble, get sick. The game ends when someone draws the death card. At that point the amount of love and money earnt in a lifetime are calculated and a winner is nnounced.

Amy's pictures on the cards are fantastic and playing the game is quite absorbing, however Amy does usually end up being the winner.


Monday, 11 March 2019

Thirteen Books for 2019

A therapy I have recently been exploring is Reading Therapy. These are the thirteen books I am intending to read in 2019.


Good Mood Books Plus
These books were chosen as they might be good for my mental health.

The Readers of Broken Wheel Recommend by Katarina Bivald
This seems to be a fish out of water story about a young Swedish woman stranded in small town America. I think I'll read it after Kafka.

A tale for the time being by Ruth Ozeki
Quite a few of my chosen books have a Japanese theme, like this one. It revolves around a diary and a tsunami and I don't know much more than that at the moment.

This book will save your life by AM Homes
This is a classic good mood book, about a business man having to face up to the messy reality of everyday life. I will have to see what it does for me.

The reader on the 6.27 by Jean-Paul Didierlaurent
This is a French book about an everyday man who escapes his dull existence by reading books on his daily commute. I used to do this when I worked in Central London. I can relate to the book already, I hope I enjoy it.

The Guest Cat by Takashi Hiraide
This is another Japanese book featuring cats. It looks quite sweet.

Kafka on the shore by Haruki Murakami
This has been recommended in several philosophical circles. I am nearly halfway through it. So far I have found it very intriguing, nasty in some places, much nicer in others, it will be interesting to see how it all fits together at the end.


Odds and Ends
I had a big sort out at the end of 2018 and came across four books I had intended to read but did not quite get around to.

Wabi Sabi by Francesc Miralles
This is the sequel to Love in Small Letters. It is written by a Spaniard, and seems to be about Japan and cats.

Life of Pi by Yann Martel
I have tried to read this several times. I read the first page again and seemed to get on much better this time. Maybe I will read the whole book this year.

We have always lived in the castle by Shirley Jackson
Shirley Jackson is a renowned writer, responsible for the Haunting of Hill House. People think this is her best book, I'll see how I get on with it.

Warm bodies by Isaac Marion
I picked this up in a charity shop, after I had watched the brilliant film adaptation. Some people say the book is even better, I hope I enjoy it.


Therapy Books
I also have three more Buddhist Psychology books I want to read.

The Mindful Path to Self-compassion
I am practising self-compassion a lot lately, which is why I have chosen all these lovely books to read this year.

Living beautifully with uncertainty and change by Pema Chodron
Pema Chodron was the first Buddhist writer I read, When Things Fall Apart helped me through a very dark time. This one seems short and sweet.

The Wise Heart by Jack Kornfield
I love Jack Kornfield's guided meditations that are on the accompanying CD to A Lamp in the Darkness. This book is much bigger and doesn't have a CD. I hope I get on OK with it.

Monday, 4 March 2019

Knitted purses and pouches


I knitted my first gadget pouches in possibly 2010, give or take a year. I enjoyed knitting them as they were brief and colourful. I love knitting but am rather slow, so larger knitting projects are quite frustrating. I was not too happy with my camera pouch and so the knitted purse was a bit of an alternative. I had knitted a gadget pouch for my daughter's mobile phone, but she thought it was decidedly 'uncool' and she has since moved onto a proper SmartPhone. I wonder if I will see the return to small cell phones like my daughter's Nokia brick and my knitted gadget pouches will finally become fashion statements. I won't hold my breath.